Monday, February 4, 2019


Today I prayed --- "God I'm ready, because I'm not ready. I have to totally lean on you. I trust you. Have your way."

The utterance was a helpful reminder.  This is not about me and its not done in my strength and abilities. Each day, I must give myself over to God so that His will may be done in my life. 

When was the last time you acknowledged that God is in control?

Thursday, January 31, 2019

Saturday, January 26, 2019

Cultivating Patience

As I strengthen my own communication skills, I am able to hear more deeply. Even brief conversations with strangers tell me a lot about their worldview. During a train ride, a young commuter asked if he should release balloons in honor of a miscarried child. During a plane ride, a gentleman expressed his doubts about the acceptance of interracial dating. And during a recent bus shuttle ride, the driver shared "I don't believe people should live together before marriage. If you can't be patient before marriage, then how can you be a good spouse? You have to be even more patient when you're married and have kids."

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It seems I make myself a "listening" target during public outings (LOL!). 

But that most recent encounter struck an internal chord. Is God using my present circumstance to cultivate something required for where I want to be? 

This morning, my husband shared that his job is teaching him to be humble. I've recognized that my own work circumstance teaches me patience. Humility and patience are required for us to love people well. And deep down, we just want to be good lovers.

Is God challenging you to mature in a specific area of your life so you can be the best in the next place you'll be? Name it. Write it down. Find scriptures about it. Pray those scriptures to God and say "me too".

I will be patient in affliction (Romans 12:12). I know that a woman who is patient has great understanding (Proverbs 14:29). Thank you for imparting understanding to me. I will be still as you fight for me, Lord (Exodus 14:14). I will wait patiently for you (Psalm 37:7). 

Sunday, January 6, 2019

Encourage Yourself

I'm looking forward to something new, while battling the trauma of past disappointments. Grateful for this reminder:

On Manifesting

Oprah has her way. Tia Mowry-Hardrict has another approach. My own understanding of "naming and claiming" (that is, manifesting my desires) has expanded.

Proverbs 16:3 Amplified Bible, Classic Edition (AMPC)
3 Roll your works upon the Lord [commit and trust them wholly to Him; He will cause your thoughts to become agreeable to His will, and] so shall your plans be established and succeed.

It begins with God. When I have successfully surrendered a part of my life, I am open to receive His thoughts. His thoughts influence and shape my heart’s desires. What I desire matches God’s will.

Once my thoughts are agreeable to His will, my actions begin to align with the successful direction of the Holy Spirit.

Co-creation begins with the Master Creator.

Saturday, March 17, 2018


Oprah Winfrey recently conducted a series of interviews about childhood trauma. On the 60 Minutes broadcast she learned about “trauma-informed care”, an approach to facilitating healing and correcting behavior in adults and children. On a special web exclusive available after the broadcast, Winfrey remarked that the investigation was the most impactful exploration she’s ever experienced.  The life-changing broadcast taught her not only how to consider what has happened to a person when trying to understand and break through their behavioral barriers, but also the importance of relationships in facilitating healing.

Winfrey remarked that her relationship with her fourth grade teacher helped to facilitate her own healing from a traumatic childhood. She went on to recount how school became the primary place where she experienced acceptance, value, love.

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In 2007, Winfrey opened the Oprah Winfrey Leadership Academy for Girls - South Africa. I suspect that the school was born out of Winfrey’s own desire to perpetuate the love she experienced. It seems we always circle back to the places where we feel validated.

School. Work. Disney World. Church. In the arms of a man or woman. Grandma’s kitchen. These places, experiences, foster thoughts and habits that influence who we reveal ourselves to be later in life. Today, Winfrey holds many titles as a media mogul and is also known as a woman who advances female education.

Who are you when you circle back to your primary place? Does your primary place need to change so that you can positively influence the world?